Here at down under investigations, we love celebrating the wins with our clients. Often great results can come after years and years of struggle and pain for our clients, so when a breakthrough occurs, we can’t help but get a little bit excited for our them. But unfortunately, sometimes through our surveillance services, the results don’t necessarily end in a win for a client. Often they end in tears, pain and broken hearts. Often we find that in some way shape or form, someone has been lying to them, and that news is never easy to hear.
Often we uncover unfaithful partners as well as family members who are lying. And although it’s usually better not to be with these people considering the way that they’ve acted whilst in the relationship or in your family, the initial process can be quite hard to deal with. So, what do you do? How do you deal with all this pain, embarrassment and even shame? The honest truth is that it’s not gonna be easy, but hopefully our advice will help.
Surround yourself with good people.
After you’ve discovered the bad news, it’s good to surround yourself with people you know you can trust, people who you know will stand with you in this time of need.
This could be family, friends or even a good bunch of co-workers. It will create avenues for you to talk about it or maybe even create places and spaces that will help take your mind off things and distract you for a little bit. We’ve found that isolation is often not the best way to deal with bad news, so surround yourself with good people who will have your back in the good or bad.
At some point you’re going to get angry, and that’s completely fine. You shouldn’t feel bad for being angry at bad news, nor should you let anyone make you feel bad for doing so!
But you need to release your anger into a safe space. So once you’ve found a great group of people, with whom you can talk to about all this, you need to find a way to release the anger in a safe manner.
So, go for walks, go for runs, go to the gym, take up swimming, take up boxing, take up whatever it is that helps! But just make sure you get a little bit physical! Exercise releases endorphins, which is a substance in your brain that in turn makes you happy! So maybe attending a weekly boxing class, or going for daily walks will be the very best thing to do after receiving bad news.
Change up your environment.
What reminds of you of the person or thing that you’re trying to mentally escape from? Can you get rid of it? Can you change or rearrange it?
Rearrange the furniture. Buy new sheets. Throw away photos. Do whatever you can to change your environment so that you create a safe space for your mind. It’s not going to be easy, because many physical things have memories attached to them. But once they’re gone, it will help you more and more.
Talk to a professional.
Friends are great, they’re caring and loving and are often great listeners. But often it’s best to talk to a professional. Seeking mental help might be the best thing you could do. They’ll know why you’re thinking what you’re thinking, and be able to guide you to where you need to be. There’s no need to be ashamed of talking to a professional. Seeking help just shows that you’re a strong person who wants to be better! So talk it out with a professional, because it will do you a world of good.
The initial stages after receiving bad news can be incredibly strenuous and difficult for your mental health. But know that after the bad news is better days. You’re better off without that person or thing in your life. Trust us.
It just takes a little time. If you, or anyone you know are struggling with bad news, feel free to contact us, because at Down Under Investigations, we’re always here to help.