At Down Under Investigations, our team of Private Investigators perform a varying range of tasks. One of which surveillance and investigations for those who are finding their partner to be a bit suspicious.
Sometimes when we perform surveillance for a client, the end result is that the suspected cheater is saying and doing exactly what they said they were doing and that it was no more than bit of paranoia.
However, we’ve also had to deliver our fair share of bad news over the years.
But how do you prevent yourself from being a cheater? How do you remain faithful? What do you do to combat certain desires and feelings you might be expressing towards someone who isn’t your partner or spouse? This is why we’ve put together a few pieces of advice on how to avoid becoming a cheater, and also how to help your friends and family if you become suspicious.
1. Talk to Someone.
Maybe it’s a professional: a marriage counsellor, psychologist or counsellor. Maybe it’s a mate you know you can trust. Maybe it’s your parents or even your spouse. But if you’re having feelings for another man or woman, you need to talk to someone about it. Don’t let the thoughts you have take over who you are. Find someone you can trust, and talk to them about how you’re feeling. They may not have all the answers, but it means they’ll be able to hold you that bit more accountable. It WILL be hard at first, but not as hard as losing your partner.
2. Think about your future?
What will happen after you cheat? Will it be a secret? Will it be a burden on your conscious?
Often we don’t think about the repercussions of our decisions, especially when it comes to cheating. But, before you do anything, think about your wife or husband. Think about your kids. Think about your future with the both of them. If you cheat, will there even be one? Is the risk worth losing everything? Don’t gamble your life away on a one night stand. It’s not worth it.
3. Seperate yourself from the Person you want to cheat with.
How much time are you spending with the woman or man you want to be with? If you know that it’s a dangerous relationship, minimise your time with them. Say it’s a work colleague. Try get into the office early and out early. Try working from home.
If you put a cookie jar within reach of your kid and say you can’t have one. They’ll want one and be able to get a cookie.
If you put a cookie jar out of their reach, no matter how high they jump they won’t be able to get a cookie. Sometimes we need to seperate ourselves from the person we desire, even if initially they’ve been a great friend. For the sake of your family, draw away from them. Until you are fully in control of your decisions.
If you feel like there’s no one you can talk to, seek help professionally and address the way you’re feeling before it’s too late. However, if you see a friend who looks as though they might be a potential cheater, call it out. It could save their marriage and family. If you have any questions in regards to cheating partners, or what to do next, feel free to call us, we’re always here to help.